Have you ever felt like the energy has been sucked from you
from the mere presence of someone else? Or you feel like no matter what you say
or do you are wrong? How about when you work so hard to impress, but end up
being criticized? You try hard to remain positive and strong, but their
negativity and toxic approach leaves you feeling drained, anxious and
depressed. These people are called Energy Vampires. They can show
up at home, work and play.
So how do you deal with these energy suckers?
Unfortunately,
garlic doesn’t work here.
Here are my 5 tips:
1) Poor
Baby: imagine the person as a small child, who probably has been treated
poorly by a parent or caregiver. Possibly, neglected emotionally and not given
the care and support in the formative years that is crucial for good energy to
flow.
2) Rise
Above: many negative people
have deep-seated fears, insecurities and sadness that they cannot come to grips
with. It feels better to make someone else feel bad then deal with his or her
own pain. Try to smile through the
energy sucking and not allow their words or choices to enter into your
heart. When you rise above, a
negative person will not get the same satisfaction out of the experience and
will often move on.
3) Look in
the Mirror: often, I have found that people come into our life to teach us
a lesson. Possibly, this negative person can teach you something valuable about
yourself. Write down how the person makes you feel: does it trigger any past
memories? How would you like to be
able to deal with conflict? Journaling can be helpful during this process.
4) Bubble
Boy: is not just a Seinfeld
character, but something you can imagine to protect yourself from an energy
vampire. Some find it valuable to visualize a protective bubble or white light
surrounding you. You can even imagine mirrors that reflect back to the person
the negative vibes they are sending out.
5) Lover not
a Hater: especially when it’s
a family member, the only thing you can remind yourself of is that everyone
needs love to grow. The very thing
you would like to see in the negative person is the only thing you can give
out. This doesn’t mean you have to accept the negative behavior, especially if
it’s harming you emotionally. But
try to send the person loving thoughts rather then hurtful ones.
The goal is to not be
angry at this toxic person, but to help them to learn the lessons that will
allow them to grow emotionally.
If you have any tips that
have worked for you, please post to share with others.
